tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4439200263955642089.post5935529367969988077..comments2023-11-02T09:05:59.716+01:00Comments on Diary: What next?Candehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01678003991987294180noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4439200263955642089.post-17320988886017135302015-05-11T07:19:22.333+02:002015-05-11T07:19:22.333+02:00It's too late for me to be thinking clearly, s...It's too late for me to be thinking clearly, so I won't say much right now, but....<br /><br />You can't "put everything behind you." <br /><br />Our hearts and our heads remember too much. What you have to do is understand and forgive.<br /><br />1 - Do you want to stay with him at all? <br /><br />2 - Why did you move out instead of recommitting and staying together?<br /><br />3 - How would you feel if he confessed to having a GF and posting intimate pictures on a sex site?<br /><br />The tit-for-tat confession game, where you both confess your darkest sins, can be mutually destructive, or you can truly try to forgive him of any real or imagined transgressions and FORGIVE each other.<br /><br />But at the same time you have to ask his forgiveness.<br /><br />I can understand the biology of your worries. If he's been seeing hookers or engaging in unsafe sexual practices with others, then you have to be cautious. A "date night" visit it to get a full STD blood panel might be a depressing, but good place to start. <br /><br />It is too late to be clear, but I am worried about how you are applying a double standard and not turning the questions around to face you first.<br /><br />How would he react to your story?<br />How would you want him too?<br /><br />Perhaps more thoughts when I've had more sleep.Advizor54https://www.blogger.com/profile/02818587592229617693noreply@blogger.com