Hunh... anyhow...
Then there's the fact that everyone here is HUGE... ok so maybe not HUGE but all the women here are overweight. Everyone except BF's sister. She's super thin, thinner than me. And I'm pretty darned thin. But all of the neighbours keep asking BF's mother if I eat. I mean what's it to them if I eat or not? This small, no I correct myself, "TINY town mentality" is killer. I could never live here. Everyone talks about everyone else. The rumours that run around here are insane. I could tell so many stories about the rumours in these towns. The town I live in is small enough, being here is 100 times worse.
All of the people who used to live here immigrated outside of Italy, mostly to Germany or France. Some emigrated north, but everyone moved for work. There was nothing but fishing or olive farming to do here. So they moved. Bf was one of them. But why couldn't they have moved to Germany or France? I wouldn't be in the situation that I am. I'd probably have a house of my own by now and a decent paying job. (If I'd met bf that is). Ahh I'm just whining and being difficult, but these things do run through my mind.
In any case, while here I've thought of moving back to Canada and taking bf with me to see if he'd survive the culture shock as well as I did. Mostly because I think that there are better job opportunities and better money. It's something to think about.
Cande, we all need to vent sometimes and what you say is ventworthy too. The 'Mama's boy' thing drives me insane! Like grown-ass men who rely on mother to cook meals, do washing or keep a roof over their head at 100 years old. I'm like WTF?! Grow up already and do it yourself. But leaving your clothes on the line is a joke. General rule of thumb is to treat everyone the same if you are a host.
ReplyDeleteSmall town mentality is a killer too and a reason I've moved places. The sad thing is, when you leave and move on with your life and revisit those places, you find those people remain static.
But on a good note, at least the visit is only temporary.
Your thoughts made me smile, I can so much relate, frustrations! Good thing is it's only temporary! Interesting idea to try a new life in Canada, will you be able to convince the BF?
ReplyDeleteEden, you totally get it! that's it they need to grow up, but it's the mother's fault for bringing them up like that too. I can't even just blame the men.
ReplyDeleteFrenchy, I'm not sure I'll manage to convince him. Perhaps if we take a trip out there next year to visit my grandmother, maybe he'll see something he likes and think about it... who knows.
Yes thank goodness it's temporary!!!
Sending warm wishes your way.... :-)
ReplyDeleteCanada is a wonderful country. It's worth thinking about.
As a teen I was sent to boarding school, when I did return home I ran away and lived on the streets. The last thing I am is a momma's boy and I do not understand that mentality. The spinners EX is/was a momma's boy and she still complains about it.
ReplyDeleteA small town would drive me crazy. I live in a LARGE city, I like being able to go somewhere and not have anyone know me. It also makes affairs much easier.
When dealing with people, sometimes I have to remind myself that some people are so pathetic, stirring up drama with me is probably a lot more interesting than anything else going in their lives. It seems crueler to pity someone than to be mad at them anyways.
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