I can justify cheating on bf if it's something that I've been wanting to do for a long time, like to fuck Rob. I can rationalise cheating on bf if it's a threesome because it's something that I don't want to miss out on in my lifetime.
But I can't rationalise just having random sex with a good looking 22 yr old.
Why can't I rationalise that? It's just as bad as the others....
What's keeping me from doing it? I have the opportunity... I can organise it relatively easily.
My body wants to, but my mind says that I'd be "cheating". My rationalisation isn't rational, is it? I think I'll have smoke coming out of my ears in a few minutes. My mind is going into overload trying to figure this out.
Maybe I should give in to all temptation.
Two people have mentioned this quote in two days:
The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it - Oscar Wilde
All I can say here is that it is absolutely true, then again this came from a man who died destitute at the age of 46, and was imprisoned for sodomy and gross indecency.
At the time, gay relations were illegal and he gave into temptation only to be caught and sent to jail.
I think we justify things based on their "importance."
ReplyDeleteRob is important to you, it's a long-term friendship, it might mean something if it actually happened, so it is worth the risk.
Italian boy is new, cute, flirty, and fun, and it's all about the sex, the conquest, getting off, so you see it as "unimportant" and not justifiable.
I can shoot Hitler without guilt, but I can't kill a man for his shoes, that kind of logic. I also think it puts your relationship with the BF in a new light. How much, or how little, does it mean to you in relation to other men and your sexual needs?
How is your defense/reaction if you got caught fucking Rob different than if you got caught with Italian boy?
I know these aren't answers, just questions, but you pose an interesting dilemma.
Everyone draws the line someplace. We all have a little voice inside our heads guiding us, for whatever reason, the voice is saying no. It is saying ok or why not? for the others.
ReplyDeleteMore often than not you wish you had listened, but then again sometimes you go against it and take the chance and are glad you did.
Go for it and then tell us all the hot, juicy details. You are too hot not to.
ReplyDeleteAh, Temptation. Such an evil seductress who charms us with her wicked ways, knowing that despite resistance, we will surrender to her eventually.
ReplyDeleteWhile raising my kid there was one specific parental rule to be followed.... always yield to his temptations (assuming non-dangerous, etc). Soon enough the temptation was satisfied and boring.
ReplyDeleteI remember pickles - he'd eat nothing but pickles... one after another. Worried and annoyed both, I relented and let him have his full.
The temptations and obsessions now come very rarely and he halts himself very easily.
Giving in is the best way to remove their obsessive power.