Maybe things are just going to wind into a catch 22. I will resent the fact that we are not having sex so I won't feel like having sex and therefore less sex will be had....
Bf woke up this morning saying that he was still feeling strange. He came in and gave me a peck on the cheek this morning to wake me up. He asked if I was angry at him, and I said no. On the other hand I honestly thought he might have been angry at me for Friday night at the pub, I talked to one of the older brit guys that works in the office with my friend. And I got the feeling bf was annoyed by it.
I don't know if he read the text I sent him... I imagine he read it this morning... but who knows. He's definitely not very technological when it comes to his phone. But he for sure felt his phone vibrate on Friday. He probably thought I was trying to get him to check his phone by calling him. He didn't notice the message for sure. And he wasn't feeling well. It was bad timing, but I still don't get why there is NO advance whatsoever on his part... I think I've made my move, the text message was pretty explicit... But I guess it's not enough. I'm not sure what I should do though to break through.
I actually don't remember when we last had sex.... It has to be over a month and a half... maybe two months.
Maybe I should stop any self stimulation for a while to see what happens.
It's a difficult line to balance. I've been in the opposite situation (yes, I know it may be hard to believe), where I didn't want sex, at all, and my husband was constantly trying, begging, touching... it made me nervous, it made me feel like I had to "perform". So that's definitely a risk.
ReplyDeleteBut I still say: Jump him. Grab him. Show him, in a physical way, that you want him. At night, or whenever you ususally had sex, when you used to have sex - this is not a time to be creative, just stick with what usually went down in the past. Don't expect anything to happen, but do give him opportunities to grab the opportunity. The first time after a dry spell might not be great, but it gets better.
If you want him, that is...
Spot on... yes... got to be physical ;) Excellent advice.
ReplyDeleteI'm feeling that Catch-22. That's a good way to describe it. I use http://bedposted.com to keep track of things. It works really well.
ReplyDeleteJames: that's not a bad idea... I'm bad enough at keeping track of my work and money let alone when I have sex. Doe it work?
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