I went in to work today, just to get a few things done. I was sitting at the computer at the end of the big room. There was just my female work colleague and Co-worker boy in the room. My colleague and friend was busy working and Co-worker came over as he often does to look over my shoulder at what I'm doing on the computer. He always comes super close, he bends down to get his head right up next to mine and stares at what I'm doing.
Today, though, he did everything as usual... except he kissed me. He kissed that soft space between the neck and the shoulder, my hair had parted right there, I was wearing a wide boatneck sweater, showing off a bit of shoulder and I guess he just took advantage. I was startled. I certainly wasn't expecting it. In fact I kept very still as I usually do when he comes to stand that close to me. But when he kissed me, my head whipped round and my cheek bonked him in the head. He got slightly flustered, said "you were so concentrated I guess you didn't..." in what I'd call his 'joking around tone', and the sentence trailed off.
It gave me goosebumps. I'm not sure what to think about that... I can't really justify it as friendly flirting anymore, can I? I think it crosses the border.
Is this the same co worker you wrote about earlier? The one going off for 3 weeks and maybe moving there with his gf? If so it looks like he has the hots for you also. I think he was trying to see what your reaction was to decide whether to pursue you before leaving for a few weeks. Maybe a fling of sorts?
ReplyDeleteJoe: yeah it's the same one, this flirting thing has been going on for a long time. Years probably, and has definitely become more intense recently. He has a girlfriend though... a serious one.
ReplyDeleteHaving seen that spot in HNTs previously, I understand the urge to kiss and his inability to resist.
ReplyDeleteSo what are you going to do when he asks you to meet him one evening?
ReplyDeleteAdvizor: hmmm there is always control...
ReplyDeleteJoe: In some ways I hope he doesn't ask me, it simplifies things. On the other hand I wish he would... But I don't know what I'll do.... I might even accept.
Self control is greatly over-rated. Makes people miss the fun parts.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Advizor. I'd go with the feeling, whatever it may be. Life's too short. Enjoy yourself.
ReplyDeleteIt definitely crosses the border.
ReplyDeleteOn the one hand, things are already rocky with the BF, and if things end with him I imagine there will be a lot of regret regarding all the opportunities you missed having spent so much of your adult life with him.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, if you do stick by him and things go over the line with this coworker, then you'll have to carry that weight for the rest of your life.
You're in dangerous territory. Tread lightly.
Yes it crosses the border. Considering how long this has been going on, it seems natural things would progress. In a way, it might have been easier for you if they hadn't, but easy isn't always best though... It's very exciting, can't wait to hear if more things have happened...
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