Saturday, June 26, 2010

how to reach multiple orgasms

I want to figure out how to have the same multiple orgasms that I had in my one and only so called wet dream. I think there may be a lot to learn from that experience. Everything is in the mind, that was brought on without any stimuli whatsoever.

My body was relaxed too, it wasn't the usual orgasm where you tense up, curl your toes kind of thing. I think that may be one of the keys. It possibly has to do with the slow building of the orgasm and staying relaxed.

Usually after I've had the first orgasm it's a strong one, my body and muscles are tired from it. But if the body could stay relaxed then the multiple orgasm would be easier to handle physically. I've even had two orgasms one right after the other, but never the "wave upon wave" of orgasms that I was experiencing during my dream. It was a completely different sensation.

Staying relaxed would mean that it would take longer. I never really thought about it but tensing my legs makes the orgasm come on faster and stronger. Leonhart mentioned it in one of his posts a while back and it got me thinking.

Does anyone have any advice?

9 comments:

sin said...

No, But I want one too. I'm going to check back to see if you get any advice.

Southern Sage said...

Well my bride is one O and out. Shes done, will not even look for the second one.

If I could have multiple orgasms women would have trouble sitting when I was done with them.

I have been with several multi-O chicks. I am not sure it can be taught, I think it is due to anatomy. The wave after wave is surely something to be desired it seems to me. I don't know how some of them could function after a session. Which if the truth be told they are the easiest ones to make "tap out", after a couple hours they are completely rung out.

Cande said...

Sin: Heh... probably something to look into more... Maybe I'll try doing some research too...

Sage: I honestly think that it's a frame of mind thing. I highly doubt it's anatomy, just because the proof is in the dream. I've never had "multiple O's" before and strangely enough I have them when I'm not even stimulated physically... can't be anatomical....

But I imagine that it is quite tyring. Just one wears me out lol-

Diner Nighthawk said...

TMI Alert!

I'm not a female, so I'm not sure how much I can share without sounding pompous. I've had two partners, one a woman in her late thirties and the other a 29 year old woman, who were capable of multiples. Both attributed their ability to a g-spot stimulator and a lot of free time... meaning they weren't so much as aiming for multiples, they were just having a good time with themselves and it happened, and they learned how to repeat the procedure. Both mentioned that it had nothing to do with the clitoris. For what it's worth, that's all I know about the subject.

Lena has had one orgasm after the other twice in the six years we've been together, but I think that was different. They were both clitoral, both in the "doggy style" position, and both times it was me giving her a reach around and not her masturbating. I'm pretty sure it was mostly about the atmosphere being just right though, and me just lucking into the perfect position with my hand and penis.

I can have multiple orgasms (multiple ejaculations with the same erection), but I don't think it's the same for guys. I figured it out by "edging" while I was masturbating (seeing how close you can get to the peak of orgasm without falling off of it). I eventually edged just a little too far, and I stopped but I still came a little but it didn't feel like a "full blown" orgasm (it was all in my penis, not in my whole body). I can keep it up indefinitely until I really let myself go, but I do run out of semen about three mini-climaxes in and just start having dry mini-orgasms after that. With practice I can now do it with Lena (I can't seem to do it with others though - I think it's a comfort thing), and I've gone up to six in the past.

But no, it's not really that studly. Doing it once to buy some time is fine, but after the second one the rest hit you pretty quickly, and you have to stop every minute or two to keep from going over the edge completely. So unless you're aiming for novelty, more than two is just a rhythm breaker.

Cande said...

DN: I think that's a good start though. Following your first paragraph example, a lot of time and having a good time on your own. It's probably the best way to teach it. I doubt it's something anyone else can do for me. I have to figure it out myself.

I've heard of another guy who can do the multiple orgasm, he explained it in exactly the same way. But I didn't realize the mechanism. In the end do you get the feeling of a full blown orgasm or not? If I hold myself off on the brink, I would eventually risk losing it completely.

Diner Nighthawk said...

Yeah, I honestly believe it's something you have to learn how to do on your own before anyone can do it "to" you. Also, I seem to recall one woman attributing some of it to the muscle control she developed through kegel excersises. I think the key though is not "trying" to have an orgasm, but just having enough fun with yourself vaginally. I'm not sure if you personally have vaginal orgasms regularly or clitoral orgasms, but if you primarily masturbate clitorally like most than that should be your control to keep from going over that final brink.

For me, I do have little mini orgasms each time, complete with the spasming muscles and ejaculation, but it's all very localized to my genitals. When I finally let go and allow myself to have my final orgasm, it is indeed a full-blown, toe curling, bedsheet squeezing orgasm. But it doesn't "wash over me" in involuntary repeated orgasms the way I've witnessed or heard female multiples described, so I'm not sure how helpful my purely male experience is; it seems to me that my multiples are all about staying in control, whereas female multiples are all about letting go.

Sorry to sound so clinical about all this; there's a very fine line between having an open discussion about becoming multiorgasmic and talking in a manner that ends we me fantasizing about you in a candlelit room with a vibrator; I'm trying very hard not to cross it :-P

Cande said...

No worries, I like the clinical for sure. It was my aim. My post was clinical too, so answers should be too, I suppose there's no way round it.

But I agree it is about letting go... I think I have to learn how to do that... I have never tried, I should dedicate my next free day to that... Multiple studies ;)

Socalrider111 said...

My wife is multi-orgasmic from time to time depending on her mood. Frequently, though, she is willing to let me tease her to orgasm after orgasm to the point where she is generally not interested in sex for days.

Cande said...

Socalrider111: interesting... I think I can relate to that. If I overdo it with the sex, sometimes I will end up uninterested... sometimes it has the opposite effect though too.

I wonder what her technique is...