I'm trying to figure this out. It is obvious to me that without knowing I can't possibly make things work.
Does the home cooked meal and cleaning the house really make a man happy?? Why? Is it a reminder of Mom? Does he feel like he's being pampered?
I don't get it.
The other day we were out for a walk and I suggested we go to a cafe and have a snack for dinner then some ice-cream. It's the same old story, same as the last time I blogged about it. I can't convince him. He said, the grocery store is right there, why don't we grab something and go home?
It was a bit of a tug of war and I ended up losing interest all together and I bought myself some ice-cream and tater-tots and we went home.
When we had the discussion at home, his answer was that I only do what I "want" to do (that's code for the cleaning that I never do) so he'll keep refusing to go out with me, why should he do things he doesn't want to do if I'm not doing things I don't want to do.
I've been honest about the household situation on this blog. I have admitted that I do very little to help out around the house and there are lots of reasons/excuses for that: I work (he doesn't) so he has more time, I am slower at seeing what needs to be done so he does it before I get a chance to, he's better at it than I am, I get home from work exhausted and don't have the energy to clean.
We've been having this same conversation for 10 years. I'm getting a bit tired of it.