Is your relationship lacking in the sex department? Is your wife/partner bored with the way you have sex? Do you initiate sex the same way every time? Is it time to spice things up in the bedroom?
Sexual tastes change over the years. Oh yes, I am the living proof. I'm sure that sexual tastes change for just about everyone. We come to a point in our lives where we have accomplished a certain sexual maturity and knowledge and the more immature needs turn into more 'sophisticated' needs. We are influenced throughout our lives by the people we meet and have relations with, people we talk to, things we see and read, movies we watch and even internet porn. It would be impossible not to change.
Would it be totally wrong to ask your partner if their tastes have changed? would it be a mistake? is it better to try to fumble in the dark and figure it out?
I know that at the beginning of a relationship discovery is important and it's certainly better to have some mystery in the bedroom. But after 10 years (or more) of being with someone I think we tend to get ingrained into a certain style of having sex. It's hard to fathom that people change over the years. It's hard to see your partner as the 40 or 50 year old he/she is. We (at least me) often still imagine our partners as who they were when we met them or when our knowledge of them was concretised.
So would it be wrong to ask our partners what they like in bed?