I stopped by work today. I wasn't working but I needed to drop something off so I decided to stop by late and see if I could convince Co-worker and my girlfriend to have lunch with me. Short of it is that I had about 2 hours to kill there so we chatted.
It was the three of us. Co-worker my other co-worker who's a woman and me. So many 'us' (CoW and I) related things were said that I can't even sum it all up without forgetting something.
We talked a good long time about relationships and cheating. Co-worker and I were trying to convince our girlfriend, who recently (three years ago) got married, that the temptation to cheat doesn't come in the first few years of marriage but after a longer relationship, 7-10 years. I tried to keep out of it, but he was clearly talking from experience. He said that "temptation is a bastard" and you don't really have control over it. Things in the long term relationship change, they cool down and you start looking around.
Later he told me that he was heading south for a holiday in a month or so. He's headed straight for my bf's home town... freaky strange. It's a tiny town that no-one has ever heard of, there's nothing much there, but he's headed there with his gf for his summer holidays. Apparently he has friends there.
During the same time frame there's a concert I know he'd love to see and that I'd definitely love to see. I asked if he was going and he said yes. I almost fainted. I said that he owed me a favour and that he owes me a ride to the concert, it's not in my town but not too far away. He said 'absolutely not', laughing under his breath. He does owe me a big favour. But I can totally see why he'd never go with me. The temptation would be too huge. I was already there though imagining another evening in bed with him... Whatever, he's not going, he was pulling my leg about it, he'll be on holiday in my bf's town during the concert.
He said all sorts of things about me being a temptation for him. He offered to send me to the concert with a couple of his friends, clearly specifying they were single guys and that it would be "ok" that way. I then reminded him that it wasn't that ok that I'd have no way to explain it to the BF... I mean seriously what could I possibly tell the bf, "hey I'm off to see the concert with two guys I don't know."? He laughed at me and said "see we're in the same position".
He mentioned something about his gf and her views of me. Something like it wasn't enough that we went to Corfù together.
Then he called me difficult and a vampire after HE suggested we go together and not tell anyone (quite possibly to spurn me) and I answered "yeah, why not?"
I feel like telling him that he started it all.... he's the one that walked up behind me one day and bit my neck.
ugh... men.... (have I said that enough this year?)
9 comments:
I know you're horny, but don't get sucked in one more time by CoW ... ain't nothin' good ever gonna happen or come of it.
Mike
Michael: I have a hard time not getting sucked in. It's hard to ignore. But I do try....
Petunia. Thanks for dropping by again. I have to keep saying that to myself as a mantra... CoW is pathetic....CoW is pathetic....
I know it's hard ... but NOTHING has EVER come of it.
Mike
That's partially because I didn't want it to happen in Greece. And because I couldn't figure out if he wanted it or not. I can't really blame him.
I wouldn't be so hard on CoW because he is like most guys. He likes to flirt, he likes the attention, he is restrained by some internal reason from moving into a physical relationship or more intimate emotional connection with you, so he tries to play the fun middle ground. Most guys do it, we want to know that, were things different, you would sleep with us, while, maintaining plausible deniability in case the GF asks "Do you want to sleep with her?"
It's all an ego game, but as long as you know it's a game, then it can be fun to play. But don’t start thinking that something is going to happen, it most likely won’t, even if he thinks it will. If he had the balls to do anything, it would have happened already.
I'm not really expecting anything to happen. I can't say I don't hope for it at times. But I know that I'm just reliving Greece and probably substituting for what I really want from Rob.
Fact is he "tries" to play the fun middle ground, but he's not playing very well.... He crossed that line.... no WE crossed that line in Greece. Things can't go back.
I think Advizor's right. If he really had the guts to cheat on his girlfriend & put everything on the line, he would've, regardless of whether you wanted to in Greece or not. He would've found a way to manipulate the situation to his liking. It's just a game for him but he doesn't have the balls to pull the trigger.
I'm just here because this isn't Facebook, and I have no way to 'like' Advizor's comment :-)
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